The self reliant video of the week is all about self-reliant misery. How you take take your personal misery into your own hands and make sure it becomes a reality. Amusing to be sure, but it may help you remember something you already knew about being happy.

Here’s some other recent self reliance info and how tos from around the web:

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Here’s another video that Patti Moreno & The Square Foot Gardening crew just released.

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Here are some how-tos and other good self reliance articles for this week.

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Here’s a couple of videos with some great ideas for making the most of the space you have available.

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More self reliance information and how-tos from around the net.

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Jackie Clay from Backwoods Home Magazine recently posted a video on a quickly thrown together chicken coop. Check it out and see if doesn’t give you any ideas for when you throw together your first coop.

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Guest post by Moreen Torpy

Over-commitment is a symptom of disorganization. Sounds harsh? Not really. It’s too easy to say YES to every request for your time then regret having done so. I’ve been there numerous times, and still have to remind myself not to take on more than time will allow in order to do it well and still have time to be myself.

The first step is to reorganize our thoughts. By saying NO to one thing is actually saying YES to something else. If we can bring ourselves to not take on a commitment, we’re actually saying that other things are priorities, like our family, for example.

How can we say NO without hurting others’ feelings? There are a few ways.

1. State the obvious. If you need more family time or balance in your life, say that. Even if the person requesting your time tries to convince you to agree by saying the commitment is only for a once-a-month event, you know full well that this isn’t quite true. There may be only one meeting a month, but there’s always preparation for it, and additional pressure to take on a committee or some other time eater.

2. Reply that you need some time to think about the offer. After you’ve consulted your calendar, you’ll be in a better position to respond the way you really want to without feeling anxious about it. You will have had time to prepare your response-then stick to it.

3. Don’t give in to flattery. That’s one technique used to strong-arm you into taking on another responsibility. It’s wonderful to feel special and needed, but not when it costs you precious time and could possibly lead to burn out.

4. Be clear about your reasons for not agreeing to add another commitment to your schedule. You need to be certain you can give it your best, and if now isn’t the time you can do that, you’re justified in refusing.

5. Clarify your own priorities and act accordingly. Remember, saying NO to someone else is really saying YES to yourself. There’s nothing wrong with that. You can still say YES to activities that fit with your priorities.

Your saying NO gives someone else the opportunity to say YES. Every organization needs new blood in order to grow. Look at it this way-you’re actually thinking about the good of the organization by creating space for new people take on some responsibilities.

One way to become more organized is not to let YES become a habit. Sometimes a full calendar indicates that you might be running away from something disagreeable. Better to face that and deal with it so you can live a fuller and happier life.

De-Clutter Coach 2008

Moreen Torpy is the De-Clutter Coach, a Trained Professional Organizer, Author, and Speaker. Let’s Get Organized: 172 tiplets to simplify life is her first published work. See http://www.decluttercoach.ca to subscribe to Let’s Get Organized, her monthly e-zine and purchase the booklet.

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